Lesson #1: You will never know unless you try.....

 Getting to know the girl behind the woman...


One of the most thought‑provoking questions you can ask yourself is: “Who am I?”
It’s deceptively simple, yet profoundly difficult. The truth is, we are never constant, we are always changing, evolving, and becoming. Sometimes that change is shaped by circumstances, sometimes by choice, and often by what we feed our soul.

So, who am I?
I am a woman, a gentle and caring soul, walking a path of self‑discovery. Right now, I am a single professional with a zest for life that has grown as I uncover the true meaning and value of living. Each day, I strive to become a better version of myself.

Roots and Beginnings

I grew up in East London, a small town in South Africa. As a child, I was very thin, teased for looking like an “ironing board.” I was introverted, quiet, and often lacked the confidence to truly be myself. Yet I persevered, completed high school, and went on to study at Rhodes University. Becoming one of the first in my family to graduate with a postgraduate degree was a milestone I’ll always cherish.

Driven by independence, I later moved to Durban, studied part‑time for my Honours degree at the University of KZN, and worked as an IT lecturer to support myself.

Love, Marriage, and Lessons

During my studies, I met a young man, married, and returned to East London to begin married life. I was young and naïve, and those years taught me many lessons, about relationships, self‑worth, and the importance of keeping my trust circle small.

After ten years, I divorced. Yet I hold no regrets. Every choice, whether joyful or painful, has shaped me into who I am today.

Rediscovery and Independence

Post‑divorce, I knew I needed change. I reclaimed my independence by traveling abroad alone, immersing myself in new cultures and experiences. At first, I wasn’t happy with who I had become, the sacrifices I had made, the parts of myself I had lost. But I chose to rise above, to paint a new picture of my life.

With the support of my parents, family, and friends, I moved back to Durban and began working at an IT gaming company, a turning point in my journey.

Life Today

Now, I am an IT professional with a passion for planning, problem‑solving, programming, and database development. Though I started with few friends in Durban, I built meaningful connections and continue to keep my circle small.

Beyond work, I have a wide range of interests, dancing, singing, yoga, painting, cooking, sewing, crocheting, and now blogging. I love walking along the beachfront and exercising in the park, Durban’s lifestyle suits me perfectly.

I aspire to try new things, and if I enjoy them, I embrace them fully. I don’t believe in limits, the sky is the limit, and the boundaries we see are only those we create.

The Lesson

If there’s one truth I’ve learned, it’s this, you will never know unless you try.
Life is not about standing still, it’s about exploring, experimenting, and embracing change. Every attempt, whether successful or not, adds depth to the story of who we are becoming.


Lesson number 1: You will never know unless you try.....


This journey is far richer than its surface suggests. With each post, you’ll uncover more of the story and perhaps gather a few life lessons to carry with you along the way.

~Nerusha


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