Lesson #3 : Cultivate strong relationships

In the journey of life we come across so many people, some are just acquaintances, others become friends, and then there are those that are not only friends but who speak to our soul, these friendships last for a really long time, a lifetime.

In my life I have met so many people, some really good, some not with the best of intentions and others that really are negative and toxic. Its been a roller-coaster, learning how to decipher who is true and has good intentions and telling these apart from those that are the opposite. One thing I have learnt is that your instincts can really help you here, provided to are in tune with what you are feeling and you feel those vibrations, these can guide you when people are not really good for you. 

One thing I can say is that I have taken time to look and focus on the relationships I have currently, with family and close friends, those that are truly there and present. Building these relationships are vitally important to cultivate a good support system. Lets be clear here, I am not one to call everyone and chat every day, but I do believe in the reassurance that when you need me, I will be there regardless of time and distance. There is a misconception I believe that if you call someone frequently, that you truly care and are there in a time of need. Everyone is different, and I believe in soul connections, connections that stem from the heart and which transcend any physical and material displays of connections or gains. Nurturing these connections with heartfelt and understanding conversations, thoughts and prayers, supportive gestures and listening, this is how I believe we build strong relationships. 

There is truth in the saying that "You can't chose your family but you can choose your friends". In my life I have had a unique upbringing where I inherited a family in addition to the one I was born into, how fortunate am I to be blessed in this way. These are the relationships I chose to cultivate as I know they are true to their very core. 

So..... yes you can choose your friends, but choose them wisely. Friends can add value to life and help you grow as a person, they help you to see things from different perspectives, kind of like free therapy sessions 😂 Seriously though, close friends should be chosen wisely as this could be the opposite where instead of helping, you could end up with those that do more harm than good, so take care when deciding who you chose to be in your circle of trust. True friends really know who you are, they respect you and also know their boundaries but they also have your best intentions at heart, they will tell you when you are wrong and when you are right, support you through the bad times and share in the good times, these are really true soulful connections.

Lesson #3 : "Be grateful for true relationships...."

For the most part of my life and partly because I am a Capricorn, I believed that being independent was being able to do everything on your own, not needing anyone else and very rarely asking for help, boy was I so incredibly wrong.... 

The stronger your relationships, the more armed you are for whatever life throws your way...its not that you're weak or not independent, but you allow yourself to be vulnerable and reveal that part of you to your loved ones, as you do need people around you and in your life and its important to have the right people in your life that will help you grow, and not judge you. Those that will uplift you and enable you to be a much better version of yourself. This is how you can strengthen those bonds of family and friendship.